Not going to lie, I about spit my coffee out when I read this:
“You’re asking people who can become pregnant to accept less bodily autonomy than we grant to dead bodies.”
I hesitated when I started thinking about the title for this post. I don’t like to be inflammatory. I hate using loaded phrases and words to get a point across. I believe they detract from the argument and put people automatically on the defensive. No one likes to be told they’re waging war on someone, it just doesn’t sit well with many of the people who are vehemently pro-life, many of whom are working to protect something they feel is incredibly valuable. They don’t equate being pro-life with stripping women of their bodily autonomy because that isn’t who they are focused on. All they see is an innocent human being that needs protecting at all costs from people who would end its life before it has even factually begun.
Of course there are people in power who use the pro-life stance to hold women down and relegate them to birthing machines with little to no other purpose. They hide behind a religion that has a history of subjugating women and making them inferior to men in every way that matters. As we move farther and farther away from the ideals of that religion they hold onto the last vestiges of their control like children holding onto a toy they don’t want to share. It’s pathetic, really. And these people use people like I mentioned above, saying all the right things to whip them into a frenzy about all the innocent babies that our tax dollars are paying to abort, which isn’t even factually true.
I’d like to go back to that quote above for a few moments. It doesn’t sit well, does it? It makes you uncomfortable. Even if you don’t view it that way, that is the reality of what the pro-life movement is demanding. You want a woman to sacrifice her bodily autonomy for something that scientists (you know, the people who studied this shit for a decade or more) don’t even consider a viable human being. If that bundle of cells was removed from the womb, it would die. It cannot support its own life. That is reality, that is FACT. And you are asking a woman to sacrifice her body in the most invasive of ways to support a life she didn’t want to create in the first place. Her body is going to change dramatically over the next nine months to support the fetus growing inside of her, and her body will be forever changed as a result. It will take months and even years for her to regain complete control of her body, all for a baby she didn’t want.
if at the end of they day you’re still okay with that, knowing exactly what you are asking her to do, what you are asking her to willingly give up, then you are the problem. You allow yourself to be controlled by people who do not care about you and use your emotions and religious beliefs to further their cause against women, to put them in a place of subjugation and submission. Below men, below even dead people. YOU are relegating women to a social status below DEAD BODIES. Even if you don’t feel that way, that is what you are doing with your words and actions when you support people who use their considerable power to put women below virtually everyone else. You are waging war on women with your actions.
You can try and dress it up nice and pretty by saying you are protecting the innocent babies, but you are purposely ignoring the very real human being already standing in front of you. a human being with needs, wants, and desires. She has rights as a human being, and your actions take those rights away from her. Her rights as a living, breathing human being trump any rights the unborn fetus has, just by virtue of the fact that she is alive and can support her life without the assistance of another human being.
And lets face the reality of the situation. Most of the people reading this are fortunate enough to live in a country where abortion is legal, and can be accessed safely. In states where Planned Parenthood has been de-funded at the state level, women are having to travel hundreds of miles just to access even the most basic health services, including birth control, which has statistically been shown to lower the number of abortions dramatically. In countries where abortions are illegal or otherwise not easily available, the damage is even more staggering. Women dying, getting injured, or becoming infertile. Babies who are carried to term being abandoned and left to die.
Doesn’t sound very pro-life, does it? Or does being pro-life end when they’re born? The minute they exit the womb, they don’t need your protection anymore? What about the unwanted children who end up in horribly dysfunctional homes because their parents are stretched too thin to provide for them? What about the thousands of children who end up in foster care because their parents can’t take care of them? The millions of children who don’t know where their next meal is going to come from? The kids who go to school with no pencils and paper because their parents can’t afford it? And then the cycle continues when the same people who are pro-life push for abstinence only education in schools.
People have sex. Kids have sex. Kids and people that don’t know how to properly protect themselves are having sex and getting pregnant. In states where abstinence only education is the standard, the teen pregnancy rate is sky high. We are not going to stop kids from having sex, this has been proven by literally decades of research and mounting teen pregnancies. We need to remove our collective heads from our collective asses and realize that we’re not going to stop people from having sex. That is not the answer to this problem. Abstinence only education is one of those bullshit store brand band-aids trying to stop the bleeding from a gun shot wound. Not only does it not work, it is actively harming the very people it is trying to protect.
I for one am sick and tired of being told I’m a horrible human being for facing reality. Would I ever get an abortion? Unless I am going to die as a result of child bearing, then no, I wouldn’t. But that is my choice to make, just like it is every woman’s choice to make whether she carries a baby to term or not. Providing safe and legal access to abortion dramatically reduces the risk of complications for the mother. Providing safe and legal access to birth control dramatically reduces the need for those safe and legal abortions. In countries where they don’t have these things, women are being harmed at an alarming rate because they would rather risk infertility or even death to go have an abortion by someone who does not know what they are doing. These are facts that can be verified by a quick google search. These are not opinions or religious beliefs, which absolutely do not trump facts in any way, shape, or form.
Religious conservatives are, once again, on the wrong side of history in this debate, and it is only a matter of time before your folly is exposed once again. Make the choice to be pro-all human life, not pro-fetus. Admitting the need for access to safe and legal abortions does not make you anti-life or pro-abortion. It means you have realized that while something may not be for you, there is a need for it for other people, and denying them the right to their own body and the choices regarding their body is wrong.